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Peri L. Hades ([personal profile] perilous) wrote2009-06-21 11:53 am

and you can sleep in a coffin, but the past ain't through with you

I'm pretty sure I'm preaching to the choir here, or at least I hope I am, but just so we're clear:

Extending a little bit of courtesy to protect fellow fandom members and, you know, fellow people from serious emotional and possibly physical pain by slapping on a warning is easy, fast, and always more important than your hurt feelings, the supposed element of surprise in your story, or your bullshit excuses about "strength" and "getting over it."

I'm going to recommend that everyone read this excellent post by [ profile] impertinence, in case you haven't already and particularly if you're unsure about the importance of this, but only if you're feeling up to it-- it's hard-hitting and graphic and could be seriously upsetting even if you don't have personal experience in the area. Here: Warning: Very explicit discussion of sexual assault and the nature, anatomy, cause & effect of triggers. Is itself triggery.

[identity profile] 2009-06-22 03:12 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree with absolutely everything you and [ profile] impertinence (and everyone else, for that matter) said on the subject. It's not right for people to make assumptions about how well someone can handle certain subjects. Just because something doesn't effect you, doesn't mean it won't bring back terrible memories or flashbacks for someone else :(